It’s been awhile since I’ve come a-quick-takin’. Busy, busy, busy! But here I am! Happy to be here!
One of the things I worry about a lot as a mom is whether I am doing enough to instill faith in my children. How do you raise faithful Catholic children? And, how oh how, do you survive the teenage years?
I found these articles here and here to have some good thoughts.
I found these articles here and here to have some good thoughts.
The first article comes from a mom of eight, and she expands on the three rules she followed to raise her kids in the faith: (i) Moral formation is the top priority, (ii) What I teach must make sense, and (iii) Nothing is off limits for discussion. Some good stuff here.
The second article focuses on the top 10 mistakes that Christian parents make with their teenagers. Also, some good stuff here.
Sorry to be so link-driven, but these things stress me out, BIG TIME, and I just feel like I have no practical experience draw from (my teenage and college years were not exactly brimming with Catholic fervor). For those of you who felt like you came through the teenage and college years with your faith in tact, how did you do it? What did your parents do to help or hinder your faith development? I know I have some time before my kids get to these ages, but I still worry a lot and want to be as prepared as possible.
Okay, this is depressing (sorry), but I think it speaks to a pretty serious problem in the legal profession that needs more attention. The legal profession ranks fourth in suicide rate. Lawyers are 3.6 times more likely to suffer from depression than non-lawyers. Lawyers also struggle with substance abuse at nearly twice the rate of general population.
Well, there isn’t a one-size-fits-all answer to that, but, generally speaking, it strikes me that lawyers are not very good at work/life balance. That’s a problem. Equally problematic is letting money and profit drive your life into the toilet. Admittedly, the law is a tough profession. It is the most jealous of mistresses. But finding balance is the only way to make it work. I wish there was a secret recipe for it because I’m still struggling quite a bit with it. But I do know this ---family, children, time away and time off --- they are essential. Because the alternative— these stories—well, they are just devastating.
Okay, wow . . . 1 and 2 were some REALLY HEAVY takes! Now, on a much lighter note . . .
Yesterday, the baby let go of the dishwasher that he was using to stand and BALANCED ON HIS OWN for, like, 10 WHOLE SECONDS!!! Unfortunately, I did not catch it on camera, but you can bet I’ll be stalking him with the camera for the next few days until I do!!!
Gosh, he is growing up SOOOO fast! It’s such a bittersweet thing for me. He is going to be walking before I blink. Where does the time go?
Soooooo . . . did anyone else read this editorial in the New York Times?
Honestly, I really should know better by now. I very rarely agree with most newspaper editorials, especially the ones that appear in the New York Times. But a friend posted it on Facebook and, since it was about expanding education for women, it seemed promising.
And it wasn’t too bad . . . until I made it to the ninth paragraph. “Youth bulge” . . . say whaaa? Then, there is this beauty:
One study found that for every 1 percentage point increase in the share of the population aged 15 to 24, the risk of civil war increases by 4 percent. That means that curbing birthrates tends to lead to stability, and that’s where educating girls comes in. You educate a boy, and he’ll have fewer children, but it’s a small effect. You educate a girl, and, on average, she will have a significantly smaller family. One robust Nigeria study managed to tease out correlation from causation and found that for each additional year of primary school, a girl has 0.26 fewer children. So if we want to reduce the youth bulge a decade from now, educate girls today.
Is it just me or is the “population control” message just EVERYWHERE nowadays? Gosh, I mean, I know we live in a contraceptive world, but seriously???
More diplomatically (and without appealing to religion, which is hard for me to do, but sometimes logical arguments that lead to the right conclusion religiously are just more effective), I have this to say:
As a professional woman with a post-grad degree, I am all for educating women. It provides them with the tools to take care of themselves and their families and engage more fully in the world. So important. But I have a real problem with the notion that we should be educating girls in order to prevent a "youth bulge." The capacity to have children is a fundamental part of what it means to be a woman. If the goal is to educate women so they do not have children (or as many children as they might want), then you are effectively asking a woman to sacrifice her child-bearing on the altar of education. Many women want to have children; it is, after all, a basis biological instinct. But educated women are often forced to choose between having children and advancing their careers (or, worse, paying off their student debt). To ignore that elephant in the room is folly. Moreover, by utilizing education of women as a means of fostering what can only be termed "population control", you are asking the larger society in which women lives to cut off its nose in order to spite its face. Less children means less economic activity and stimulation overall, less demand for food, clothes, supplies, etc. Less children means less taxpayers in the future. Less taxpayers means higher taxes. This is true worldwide. Here in the U.S., we are facing an almost certain loss of social security and other elder benefits in the future. While some of that is certainly due to poor tax policies and short-sighted politicians, we would not be facing any of those problems if we had more taxpayers funding these programs. Instead of focusing on this bizarre notion of a "youth bulge" with odd statistical data that may have many explanations, how about we focus on the real problems inherent in creating an "elder bulge"? Let other countries learn from our example. Women should be educated, but not as a means of encouraging them to have less children.
So, didya notice that I posted not once, but TWICE yesterday?!?!? Miracles DO happen! But I’m virtually certain it was a once-in-a-lifetime occurrence, and I’ll shortly revert back to my once-every-three weeks M.O.
So, what motivated me to post twice yesterday? That would the lovely Mrs. Jennifer Fulwiler and her fabulous book Something Other Than God.
For making it all the way to the seventh take, you deserve a reward. Here you go:
That moment when you look up from watching your baby's swim lesson to discover that both of his older brothers have pulled their pants down and are peeing in the swim instructor's bushes. Yes. THAT moment.
(Yes, that really happened.)
Enjoy your weekend!
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